No One Cares

I am going to be honest and I am going to get some heat for this…

No one cares.

I know that sounds harsh and cynical, but hear me out.

Take your Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram friends. Look at how many “friends” you have on each. How many of those “friends” do you actually communicate with on said social media site (likes, comments, private messages, replies, etc.)? How many of those “friends” actually communicate with you?

So why do you feel this need to share every single detail of your life with acquaintances who do not care for the details, many of whom you have never met? Call me old school, but I think certain things are best kept between your closest family and friends.

Sure, there are events that are understandable to share like a status about your engagement, marriage, pregnancy/birth of child, or new job. However, there is such thing as sharing TOO much.

Here is the difference between a sufficient amount of information and TMI:

An acceptable status:  “Billy Bob and I are having a girl!”

A TMI status: “Ugh, the third trimester sucks. Thankfully, I have the sweetest hubby who went out and bought me some of my favorite ice cream:  STRAWBERRY! How sweet is he? Baby girl is kicking! Here are the latest ultrasounds! (insert picture here)”

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If I care at all, I only care enough to know that you and Billy Bob are having a girl. I do not need a mental image of your pregnancy. And, honestly, I could go the rest of my life without seeing an ultrasound of your baby…inside of you. Same way I only care enough to know you were recently engaged or married; I do not necessarily need to know your wedding itenerary or if you are going to use baby’s breath or roses. When you go on your honeymoon, I do not care to see 10 different pictures of your mojito, glued to your hand, and seems to travel around Cancun with you.

Be mysterious. Let people actually be excited for you when you tell them the details in person. Here is a shocking idea:  SURPRISE PEOPLE!

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21 Signs You are No Longer 21

21 signs you are no longer 21, from a going-on 23 year old perspective:

1. You forget your age. “I’m in my 20’s,” covers it.

2. You rarely type statuses or upload pictures to social media; instead, you log on just to see who was recently engaged or married.

3. HGTV is one of your favorite channels.

4. Reading no longer feels like a requirement.

5. You have accepted your transition from the “Juniors'” to “Misses” department.

6. Your style icon is Kate Middleton.

7. You listen to singer/songwriter and alternative music rather than hip-hop and pop.

8. You still drive your car from high school because it gets good gas mileage.

9. You are a coupon clipper.

10. You realize $5 mascara from a drug store works just as well as $50 mascara from a department store.

11. You love spending time with your family rather than constantly hanging out with friends.

12. You do not feel the need to go out every weekend.

13. If someone is no longer interested, you do not get upset.

14. You do not feel guilty when you outgrow friendships.

15. You do not feel the need to reply to every text message or return every phone call.

16. You save more of your paycheck than you spend.

17. When people excessively brag about themselves, you do not get jealous or defensive; you just feel bad for their need to be better than everyone else.

18. You have a designer clothing item from Goodwill for $5 rather than the regular priced $150. Who is the real winner here?!

19. You stop focusing on what you do not have, but rather appreciate what you do have.

20. Your hobbies may include one of the following:  knitting, crocheting, sewing, gardening, or baking.

21. You are glad you are no longer 21.

The Kate Look

I have learned as you grow older, your style [hopefully] evolves. Sure, it was fun to wear trendy clothes like high-low skirts/dresses, cartoon tshirts, leggings, and tribal print anything. However, at some point, you should step back and ask yourself if your clothes are appropriate for your age.

What girl has not shopped, or at least browsed, Forever21? The prices are appealing to a modest budget and they keep up with the latest trends. I think the store name says it all:  meant for 21 years old and younger. Trends are mostly targeted to younger customers and tend to only stick around for a couple of years before they are dubbed “last season.” However, F21 has CHEAP jeans and basic tshirts that I will not pass up.

What should you do when you are over 21 and looking for a mature look that does not make you look frumpy?

It is hard to let go of the “Junior” department when you still easily fit into its clothes. You might resist shopping your age because it means you are accepting that you are getting older. I will be honest, I am going on 23 years old and could probably fit into a child’s XL from Old Navy or Gap. Does that mean I should shop in the children’s department…just because it fits? NO!

Learn to say NO.

There is life beyond F21 (and similar stores). In fact, you might be surprised how much you like a more sophisticated and polished look. Stores that carry more mature styles will probably be a little more pricey. The key is to shop sales and clearance.

Just because I can afford an expensive dress, does not mean I am willing to buy it. My mom instilled in me an eye for fashion. There is no way I would pay more for a clothing item that my mom can make cheaper and with better quality. I rarely shop Dillard’s because most of their clothes are not truly worth their price. You are essentially buying the tag (Michael Kors, Ralph Lauren, Calvin Klein, etc). When I heard Dillard’s was having a huge sale (extra 50% off pink tags), I had to check it out.

I found a regularly priced $129 [Daniel] Cremieux midnight navy sheath dress…for $38. It was a bargain considering the original price and quality. After purchasing the dress, I immediately ran home to try it on with my $22 nude-color pumps from Payless (compare that to the $50-130 pumps found at Dillard’s)! I paired it with a pearl necklace from Macy’s that I have had since early high school.

I call this, “The Kate Look.”

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