Coming to Terms With the ‘How I Met Your Mother’ Finale (SPOILER)

I have been an avid How I Met Your Mother fan for almost 2 years. I have seen every single episode (thank you Netflix). If there was a new episode, and I was not able to watch it live, I would record it. Almost every night, I would come home from work, put on my pajamas, make popcorn, curl up on the couch, and either watch the recording of HIMYM or watch an old episode on Netflix. Some may say I am obsessed with the show…and I am okay with that.

himym

After watching last night’s finale, I just sat there. I stared at the blank tv screen. To be honest, I was not happy. I kept thinking:

  • “After all this time, after all this wait, Ted finally gets the perfect girl…and then she dies! They were together about 11 years, married 4 years, and had 2 children…AND SHE DIES!”
  • “We went through an entire season leading up to Robin and Barney’s wedding…for them to divorce after 3 years!”
  • “Why would they put so much heart-break into one, final episode?”
  • “They left us on a cliff-hanger! This is not fair!”

Then, I came to terms with the finale.

  • The show’s title is NOT deceiving. We really do get to meet the mother (Tracy). Whether or not we admit it, we knew quite a bit about her. We knew a lot about her even before Season 9. She was the woman-version of Ted and she shared a ton of interests with him. What more could we want for Ted?! Remember the episode where Ted is in Cindy’s room and picked up every item that belongs to Tracy?! I think the reason we were all so upset with the death was because we, finally, had a face and a name. Despite “knowing” Tracy before Season 9, we only became attached to her during the last episode of Season 8 – Season 9:  when we saw her.
  • As Ted’s daughter points out, Ted was telling a story about Robin more so than their mother: “You made us sit down and listen to this story about how you met Mom – yet Mom was hardly in the story. No, this is a story about how you are totally in love with aunt Robin. And you’re thinking of asking her out, and you wanna know if we’re OK with it.” In hindsight, we should have seen this coming. For a show entitled How I Met Your Mother, we learned way more about every other character…especially Robin.
  • We loved the IDEA of Barney doing a complete 180, but did we ever truly cheer on Barney and Robin? I feel like I cheered him on any time he started dating someone…period. We did not really care who he dated or ended up with, as long as it made him a better person. Ironically, it ended up being his daughter that made him a better man. That was a pretty epic (and sweet) twist of events.
  • I lost count how many times Robin mentioned that “it should have been Ted.” During those episodes, I thought “Oh, she is just living in the moment and freaking out.” Ted and Robin were never on the same page and were never right for each other…at that specific moment. It makes sense that they rekindled an old flame after Robin and Barney divorced and Ted is widowed after Tracy’s death. It is a beautiful story of second chances, moving on, and just being happy.
  • After 9 seasons, Marshall was rewarded for being such a supportive, loving, and grounded husband. Let us be honest here, we loved Lily, but we all got a little tired of her selfishness and immaturity. However, in the finale, it is obvious she calmed down quite a bit.
  • Despite being a sitcom, the show touched on a lot of relevant themes:  love, dating, friendships, death, family, work, forgiving, marriage, disappointment, and so on. Often, we forget that there were some pretty heavy and deep episodes. Remember when Robin discovered she cannot have children or when Marshall’s father passed away? The finale stuck to its guns and touches on a little bit of everything. What more could you ask for?

In the end, the show taught us about hope. Yes, there is even hope in the finale. Ted could have been bitter after Tracy’s death, but we see him taking a risk and choosing to be happy. Robin could have chosen to remain distant and reserved, but we see her attend Ted’s wedding and grinning ear to ear when he stands under her window, again, with the blue french horn. We see Barney find the love of his life:  his daughter. Finally, Marshall and Lily remain faithful and have 3 children.

A round of applause to the cast and crew of HIMYM:  well played.

Advertisements

(My Version) of 23 Things to Do Instead of Getting Engaged Before You’re 23

My friend and I began a tally of people we knew who were engaged as of the Christmas and New Year’s season. I think he reached about 6 couples, and I counted about 4. It does not help that every time I log onto Pinterest, the bride-to-be has mapped out the entire wedding.

I understand. Though many people may consider me the single cat lady, I too would like to get married some day…but not right now.

Let me tell you what I was like during 2013:  During student teaching, I decided I realllllly did not want to teach. Ever. I graduated with a degree that I no longer wanted. However, I found a Master’s program that I am absolutely in love with. Until recently, I was glued to my cell phone like a teenager. I probably had a “crush” on at least 8 guys. More than once, I was determined to cut ties with some “friends” (but never did). At 22, I finally found the sport in which I am talented:  archery. I acted like a 22 year old during 2013.

Though I am pursuing my Master’s, I have no idea where it will take me. At least 50% of the time, I have no idea what I am doing. I still live with my mom and dad. I do not even know what tomorrow will hold for me. And that is exciting and beautiful. It makes me feel young (which I am)!

I am really confused. What is so great about being engaged/married before or at 22/23 years old? Maybe being engaged/married so young is enticing to my age group because it is like playing in The Hunger Games; Effie may be cheering the young couple on, but let’s be honest, the odds are not really in their favor.

I will admit, all of these engaged/married couples make me question myself. “Why am I single? Is there something wrong with me? Is my window of opportunity gone?” Then, I quickly realize how silly I sound. I am awesome. I am pursuing my Master’s, I am independent, I still get to hang out with whoever I want, I do whatever I want, I made a career/degree change to make myself happier, I work with WKU athletes, and the list goes on.

I am living MY life.

I agree with Vanessa Elizabeth in “23 Things to Do Instead of Getting Engaged Before You’re 23”

     I can’t help but feel like a lot of these unions are a cop-out.

     It is a way for young people to hide behind a significant other instead of dealing with life’s highs and lows on their own. It’s a safety      blanket. It’s an admission that the world is just too big and scary to deal with it on your own; thus, you now have someone that is          legally obligated to support you till one of you dies or files for divorce…

     If your love is truly eternal, what’s the rush? If it’s real, that person will continue to be committed to you 2 months from now, 2 years      from now, and 2 decades from now. Grow, learn, travel, party, cuddle, read, explore. Do. Freaking. Something… other than “settle      down” at 23 with a white picket fence.

 Because you owe it to yourself.  You are a human being that deserves to thrive inside AND outside of a relationship.

I will get some heat from Bridezillas on Facebook and Twitter. They will probably delete me as a “friend” and compile a list of reasons why they are so much better than me because they are engaged or married. So while they fret over which shade of blue they will use on their wedding invitations, here is my version of 23 Things to Do Instead of Getting Engaged Before You’re 23:

  1. Pursue [even] higher education
  2. Take up a new hobby
  3. Learn to play an instrument
  4. Work a fun part-time job or begin the job of your dreams
  5. Adopt a pet
  6. Go to Hawaii
  7. Create a blog or YouTube channel
  8. Watch the entire How I Met Your Mother series (9 seasons)
  9. Take selfies like no one is watching
  10. Cut ties with “friends” that are not making you happy
  11. Have a designated tea or coffee time (mine is 4pm)
  12. Discover your style (I personally gravitate toward Kate Middleton’s style)
  13. Hang out with friends of the opposite sex
  14. Hang out with your parents whenever you can
  15. Figure out what issues are truly important to you and fight for them
  16. Learn more about U.S. History & Government so you may be a more educated citizen
  17. Enjoy the silence
  18. Create a Vine account, and make vines that you think are funny, but are really not.
  19. Watch the following movies:  Shawshank Redemption, The Last of the Mohicans, Legends of the Fall, and the Robert Redford version of The Great Gatsby
  20. Read the following books and/or book series:  The Hunger Games, the Divergent series, The Great Gatsby, and a biography about your favorite celebrity or historical person
  21. Paint something, even if it turns out horrible
  22. Go to as many sporting events as possible
  23. Learn to be independent